4 Qualities for Real Magic in Relationships

1. Relinquish your need to be right:  If you want to see miracles begin to take place in your life simply let go of the need to make someone else wrong for a few days and watch how differently things go.
2. Allow space:  Let there be space in your togetherness.  Treat that space as sacred, not a threat.  The irony is, the more space you allow and encourage within the relationship, the more the relationship will flourish.
3. Eliminate the idea of ownership: Seek time to enjoy each other, not to possess each other.  You do not have the right to tell people what they out to be doing while they are here on earth.   You do not have a loving relationship if either partner feels owned or like a possession.
4. Know that you do not have to understand: You do not have to understand why someone would want to do and think the way they do.   Things to say to yourself are, for example:  "I do not understand and that is fine." Or for children, "This is their journey.  They have come through me, not for me."  "I don't think that way, but they do.   I love them not because they are like me, but because they provide me with what I am not.   I honor that part of them that is incomprehensible to me."