Shame

"Shame is a force intended to put one outside all belonging.   The one who does the forbidden thing becomes the force for all the anger of those who would love to have done it too, but are afraid of the exclusion and shame.   Now your every move draws negative attention.   All the natural support around your presence is taken from you.   All the natural imagination with which others have considered the different aspects of your presence stops.   Everything about you is telescoped into a single view of this one thing.   A kind of psychological murdering is done.   The mystery of your life is reduced to that one thing."   John O' Donahue