Guilt

"I don't think being human has any place for guilt.   Contrition, yes.  Guilt, no.  Contrition means you are sorry and you're not gong to do it again and you start fresh.  All the damage you've done to yourself, put right.   Guilt means you on on belaboring and having emotions and beating your breasts and being ego-fixated.  Guilt is a trap.  People love guilt because they feel if they suffer enough guilt, they'll make up for what they've done.   Whereas, in fact, they're just sitting in a puddle and splashing.  In contrition, you move forward. It's over.  You are willing to forgo the pleasure of guilt."  Wendy Beckett