Women's Relationship to the Masculine

3 Stages of Women's Relationship to the Masculine

1. Feel that this force is something outside of you, something more powerful than you.  You look to another as your savior.   You may find yourself depending on his guidance, support, knowledge, afraid to lose it, worried he might leave....you may find yourself playing the helpless victim to his ways, either grateful for his wisdom or tolerating his abuse - or both.
2. You "come into your own".  You discover and cultivate your own masculine directionality and consciousness.  You learn to make your own decisions, independent of a man or other outside influence.  You refuse to be a victim - but you also miss the pleasure of opening to a man's loving presence.  You become more autonomous but as a side effect of guarding yourself, you may feel less fulfilled sexually or emotionally.
3. You know that you don't depend on a man, that you can make your own decisions and guide your own life, and yet you are tired of keeping up your guard; you want to relax into your feminine body and emotions.   You want to stop protecting your heart.  You want to swoon in utter bliss of surrender, spiritually, emotionally and sexually.  You want to maintain the freedoms and capacities you've developed but you long to be entered and opened by massive masculine love.  You want to be ravished, swept off your feet by a trustable man, sexually and emotionally as a consort, an equal partner - not as a victim.  Eventually you realize that you can be ravished by the masculine force, bloomed physically and emotionally by a tangible invasion of love, whether or not you are with a man."        David Deida