Soulful Relationships

"Our problem in relationships is how to have an ongoing, intimate life with another person at the same time as we invite this completely unpredictable depth to have a place in our lives.   It isn't easy to live with the power and mystery of another's soulful personality.   For one thing, you can't depend on what the person promises, since the soul isn't willing to be chained to intentions or even to commitments.   If the individual doesn't understand everything going on in the soul, how can one who is close, who is seriously wrapped up in the other, have even the remotest understanding?

The only solution is for both parties to respect the soul, to acknowledge the mystery that is inescapably contained in a soulful life, and to treasure that very unpredictability.   This may entail a radical shift in values.   Ordinarily, we honor commitments, promises, fidelities, and reliable habits.   If, on the other hand,  we had a larger picture in mind and honored the tendency of the soul to move in mysterious ways, we might see that the unpredicted developments that come from the soul can have a positive effect on relationship.   They offer demand a great deal of adjustments and allowance, but they also offer continuous deepening of the connection and a grounding of the attachment in soul rather than in any one person's will.  Besides, individual willfulness is usually laced with fear and manipulation and is hardly solid ground for the building of intimacy."  Thomas Mooore