and you tried to change didn’t you?
closed your mouth more
tried to be softer
prettier
less volatile, less awake
but even when sleeping you could feel
him travelling away from you in his dreams
so what did you want to do love
split his head open?
you can’t make homes out of human beings
someone should have already told you that
and if he wants to leave
then let him leave
you are terrifying
and strange and beautiful
something not everyone knows how to love.

Warsan Shire

Trustworthy

"Being trustworthy, not betraying ourselves, is, in part, about recognizing moments or situations when we are likely to be untrustworthy and seek the counsel of people who love us and are willing and able to be honest with us.   The hard part, the place we hope wisdom will find us, in in deciding where and when we must break a promise to be true to ourselves."  Oriah

Betrayal

"We have all been the betrayer and the betrayed.   If we cannot acknowledge this, we find ourselves harsh and unforgiving, unable to grieve for the time we have betrayed ourselves."   Oriah

Change and Betrayal

"We  betray ourselves when we deny the change that terrifies us, when we maintain the external illusion that all remains the same."  Oriah

Trust

"The people in my life who are the most trustworthy - those who tell the truth, even when the truth is painful - are not always those who keep their agreements with me.   Those who can be faithless - who can bear the responsibility of breaking an agreement with someone when the alternative is to betray themselves - are trustworthy.'   Oriah

Our Humanityb

"We are all half-baked experiments, mistake-prone beings, born without an instructional manual into a complex world.   None of us are models of perfect behavior; we have all betrayed and been betrayed; we've all been known to be egotistical, unreliable, lethargic, and stingy; and each one of us has, at times., awakened in the middle of the night worrying.   This, in my opinion, is cause for celebration.   We can put down the burden of pretense and get on with being bozos."  Elizabeth Lesser