Sex

"Sex, like money or meditation, is best used to realize and express your natural openness, rather than to build a false home of childish security."  David Deida

We Have Come To Be Danced

We have come to be danced
Not the jiffy booby, shake your booty for him dance
But the wring the sadness from our skin dance
The blow the chip off our shoulder dance.
The slap the apology from our posture dance.

We have come to be danced
Not the monkey see, monkey do dance
One two dance like you
One two three, dance like me dance
but the grave robber, tomb stalker
Tearing scabs and scars open dance
The rub the rhythm raw against our soul dance.

We have come to be danced
Not the nice, invisible, self-conscious shuffle
But the matted hair flying, voodoo mama
Shaman shakin’ ancient bones dance
The strip us from our casings, return our wings
Sharpen our claws and tongues dance
The shed dead cells and slip into
The luminous skin of love dance.

We have come to be danced
Not the hold our breath and wallow in the shallow end of the floor dance
But the meeting of the trinity, the body breath and beat dance
The shout hallelujah from the top of our thighs dance
The mother may I?
Yes you may take 10 giant leaps dance
The olly olly oxen free free free dance
The everyone can come to our heaven dance.

We have come to be danced
Where the kingdom’s collide
In the cathedral of flesh
To burn back into the light
To unravel, to play, to fly, to pray
To root in skin sanctuary
We have come to be danced
We have come.

by Jewel Mathieson

Love

Inside you are sweet beyond telling,
and the cathedral there,
so deeply tall.


~Rumi

Flowing Souls

Some souls flow like clear water.
They pour into our veins and feel like wine.

I give in to that. I fall flat.
We can sail this ship lying down.

~Rumi

Oneness

"I understand that if I were to look deeply
into Anything I would see You. Then, I would see Me. But the Human Being
runs from flower to flower, never to make love - not even pausing to
kiss those perfumed lips... And we wonder why we Just Can't Seem to
Find God." (From Flower to Flower, Em Claire)

Women's Bodies

"Women's body has carried the man's shadow of lust, greed and sloth.  Consciousness is also absent that neither recognizes the rape of the body soul.  Neither considers it a moral issue.  Neither hears the voice crying out from dis-eased genitals.   Each goes to the doctor for pills and salve."  Marion Woodman

Addiction, Cravings and Desire

"Cravings or longings that arise from desire for what was merely gratifying or pleasurable are not reliable guides to autonomy because they lead to  impulse and addiction.  We can never satisfy such cravings.   They are based on the absence of something we want (slenderness, sex, money, ideal life partner), which no longer seem so exciting if or when we get it."   Polly Young-Eisendrath

Sex

"Sex, like money or meditation, is best used to realize and express your natural openness, rather than to build a false home of childish security."  David Deida

Women's Relationship to the Masculine

3 Stages of Women's Relationship to the Masculine

1. Feel that this force is something outside of you, something more powerful than you.  You look to another as your savior.   You may find yourself depending on his guidance, support, knowledge, afraid to lose it, worried he might leave....you may find yourself playing the helpless victim to his ways, either grateful for his wisdom or tolerating his abuse - or both.
2. You "come into your own".  You discover and cultivate your own masculine directionality and consciousness.  You learn to make your own decisions, independent of a man or other outside influence.  You refuse to be a victim - but you also miss the pleasure of opening to a man's loving presence.  You become more autonomous but as a side effect of guarding yourself, you may feel less fulfilled sexually or emotionally.
3. You know that you don't depend on a man, that you can make your own decisions and guide your own life, and yet you are tired of keeping up your guard; you want to relax into your feminine body and emotions.   You want to stop protecting your heart.  You want to swoon in utter bliss of surrender, spiritually, emotionally and sexually.  You want to maintain the freedoms and capacities you've developed but you long to be entered and opened by massive masculine love.  You want to be ravished, swept off your feet by a trustable man, sexually and emotionally as a consort, an equal partner - not as a victim.  Eventually you realize that you can be ravished by the masculine force, bloomed physically and emotionally by a tangible invasion of love, whether or not you are with a man."        David Deida

Surrender

"Surrender = letting go of your resistance to the total openness of who you are.   It means to open with no boundaries, emotional or physical, so you ease wide beyond any limiting sense of self you might have.   It means to love without limits.   It means to relax your guard so your lover can feel your core- authentic, unhidden, and undefended.  You practice to remain open and full, like the ocean.   Surrender is the doorway to the deepest possible sex."  David Deida

Sex

"Sex is fresh, alive and open-ended; An art form, a prayer, a way of contemplating and communing with infinite love, naked, unafraid, raw.   Sex is a means for expressing this mystery of love through the music of your body."  David Deida